Written by Cristina Tanzola
We’re diving into a super important topic that affects many young people in care: normalcy and mental health. As young people navigate the ups and downs of life, it’s essential to reflect on what “normal” really means and how it impacts their mental well-being.
What is Normalcy Anyway?
First off, let’s break down what we mean by normalcy. It often refers to the everyday experiences and activities that most people take for granted. Think sleepovers, driving lessons, or even just hanging out with friends after school. For many, these activities are part of growing up, but for others—especially those in challenging situations like foster care or those facing mental health struggles—normalcy can feel like a distant dream.
As one of our Lived Experience Leaders wisely noted, “The system is often so overprotective that it stifles growth and development (no sleepovers, driving lessons, etc.).” This quote highlights how sometimes the very systems designed to protect young people in care can unintentionally hold them back. It’s crucial to find a balance between safety and growth, allowing young people to experience life fully while still having support.
The Importance of Experiences
Experiencing “normal” activities can significantly impact a young person’s mental health. These activities help build confidence, develop skills, and connect with others. For those in care or facing other challenges, these moments might be fewer and far between. But that doesn’t mean they’re impossible!
Reflecting on a personal experience, one Lived Experience Leader shared, “Normalcy does not apply for my longest placements. But for the placement when I was 17 preparing to age out of care, I was assigned an Independent Living Worker, and she taught me budgeting; we practiced shopping for groceries, and she helped me apply to colleges and scholarships.” This story emphasizes the importance of mentorship and support systems that can provide those essential experiences.
Finding Your Own Normal
So, how can young people create their own version of normalcy? Here are a few tips:
Final Thoughts
In a world that often feels overwhelming, a young person in care embracing their own sense of normalcy can be a powerful tool for mental health. While some may face additional barriers, it’s essential to remember that growth and development are possible with the right support and opportunities.
Let’s advocate for a world where every young person has the chance to experience those everyday moments that shape who they are. Whether it’s through mentorship, community programs, or just having a friend to lean on, we can all contribute to a brighter future.
Stay strong, stay connected, and keep growing!
About FosterClub and the Lived Experience (LEx) Leaders who contributed their perspectives to this blog: FosterClub, a proud partner of the National Center for Adoption Competent Mental Health, is the national network for young people who experience foster care. In partnership with Lived Experience Leaders, FosterClub drives change in the child welfare system and provides direct support to children and youth.
